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Substantial R.O.I. from Funding Recovery Programs

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Melissa Killeen

“Most crucially, everyone must be aware of how logical and smart treatment is from a purely financial standpoint.” – Dr Richard Juman, president of the New York State Psychological Association

Can there be a substantial R.O.I. (return on investment) from government-funded recovery programs? How can funding recovery programs provide high returns on the funding investment when a new report from the CDC says opioid use is at epidemic proportions? When heroin deaths nearly quadrupled from 2000 to 2013? And the trend is worsening: heroin-related
deaths, grew a staggering 39.3% from 2012 to 2013. There were about 44,000 drug drug-addiction-9847058overdose deaths in the U.S. in 2013, more than 16,000 of them involving powerful prescription painkillers such as Vicodin and OxyContin. [i] Each day, 44 people in the United States die from overdose of prescription painkillers.[ii] How much funding can the government forecast to pump into this epidemic? Addressing the impact of substance use alone is estimated to cost hundreds of billions each year. Is there enough government money to make a dent? We have to, at least, try.

Substance abuse is costly to our nation, exacting over $600 billion annually in costs related to healthcare, lost work, lower productivity and crime. Research from the Massachusetts Opioid Task Force and Department of Public Health established that mental and substance use disorders are among the top conditions that result in significant costs to families, employers, and publicly funded health systems. In 2012, an estimated 23.1 million Americans aged 12 and older needed treatment for substance use. By 2020, mental and substance-use disorders will surpass all physical diseases as a major cause of disability worldwide. [iii]

In June 2006, the Washington State Institute for Public Policy, whose mission is to carry out practical, non-partisan research on issues of importance to Washington State, was directed by the Washington Legislature to estimate whether treatment for people with alcohol, drug, and mental health disorders offers economic advantages, or a R.O.I. (return on investment). By reviewing “what works,” literature, and estimating monetary value of benefits, they reached these conclusions:

  1. The average substance use treatment program can achieve roughly a 15 to 22 percent reduction in the incidence or severity of these disorders.
  2. Treatment of these disorders can achieve about $3.77 in benefits per dollar of treatment costs. This is equivalent to a 56 percent rate of return on investment.
  3. Estimated that a reasonably aggressive implementation policy could generate $1.5 billion in net benefits for people in Washington with $416 million in net taxpayer benefits, and the risk of losing money is small.[iv]

But still, state and federal legislators are hesitant to fund intervention, treatment, and recovery programs.

“Together we must challenge individuals, communities, cities, counties, regions, states, and the nation to be accountable for the outcomes of the justice systems at every level of government.”
— James Bell

Approximately one-quarter of those people held in U.S. prisons or jails have been convicted of a drug offense.[v] The United States incarcerates more people for drug offenses than any other country. With an estimated 6.8 million Americans struggling with drug abuse or dependence, the growth of the prison population continues to be driven largely by incarceration for drug offenses.[vi] Where does this spiral of incarceration instead of treatment stop?

For example, the average cost for a year of an offender treatment program is $5,000, whereas a year of imprisonment costs over $31,000, and far more in areas like New York City where the average annual cost per inmate was $167,731 in 2012. Court ordered addiction treatment programs can seriously reduce prison costs.[vii]

The Pennsylvania Commission on Crime and Delinquency (PCCD) examined the return-on-investment for seven programs (e.g. Big Brothers and Big Sisters, Strengthening Families, and Multisystemic Therapy programs) that are supported by the state’s Commission and Department of Public Welfare. It was concluded that these programs represent a potential $317 million return to the Commonwealth in terms of reduced correctional costs, lessened welfare and social services burden, and increased employment and tax revenue. The researchers estimated that the programs produced returns of $1 to $25, for every dollar invested, and could generate cost savings as great as $130 million for a single program.[viii] Are these facts overlooked by legislators in state and federal government?

Maryland voters believe by a five-to-one margin that the drug problem is getting worse. The same poll showed that voters believe by a two-to-one margin that there are too many people in prison, and 86% of respondents favor judges having the option to order drug treatment rather than prison for some offenders. [ix] Have the voters spoken?

“Recovery with justice allows us to bury the ghosts of the past and to live with ourselves in the present.” William White

So in this election year, I urge you to contact your local state representatives, contact your state senators and congressmen/women and urge them to increase funding for substance-addiction treatment and implement reforms that will send addicts to treatment programs like Drug Court or COPS, (Office of Community Oriented Policing Services) versus prison.

William White just posted an excellent letter to our presidential candidates that outlines the impact opioid addiction has on individuals, families, and communities. White requests a policy statement by the candidates in the 2016 Presidential campaign. Copy this letter and send it to the candidates you support: http://www.williamwhitepapers.com/blog/

And remember:

There are 23 million people in long-term recovery, and we vote.

 

References used in this blog

[i] The American Association for the Treatment of Opioid Dependence (AATOD) March 18, 2015 10:51 AM, Accessed on August 23, 2015 at: http://finance.yahoo.com/news/only-1-9-substance-abuse-145129124.html

[ii] Understanding the Epidemic, Center for Disease Control, access on August 23, at: http://www.cdc.gov/drugoverdose/epidemic/index.html

[iii] Massachusetts Opioid Task Force and Department of Public Health Recommendations on Priorities for Investments in Prevention, Intervention, Treatment and Recovery, http://www.mass.gov/eohhs/docs/dph/substance-abuse/opioid/report-of-the-opioid-task-force-6-10-14.pdf  Accessed August 23, 2015

[iv] Washington State Institute for Public Policy, accessed on August 23, 2015 at: http://www.wsipp.wa.gov/ReportFile/945/Wsipp_Evidence-based-Treatment-of-Alcohol-Drug-and-Mental-Health-Disorders-Potential-Benefits-Costs-and-Fiscal-Impacts-for-Washington-State_Full-Report.pdf

[v] Number of people in federal or state prison for drug offenses: Harrison, Paige, and Allen J. Beck. Prisoners in 2005. Washington, DC: Bureau of Justice Statistics. Estimate of jail inmates held on drug offense derived from James, Doris J. 2004. Profile of jail inmates, 2002. Washington, DC: Bureau of Justice Statistics.

[vi] U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, Office of Applied Studies. 2005 National Survey on Drug Use & Health: Detailed Tables. Table 5.1A Online at www.drugabusestatistics.samhsa.gov/NSDUH/2k5NSDUH/tabs/Sect5peTabs1to82.htm#Tab5.1A

[vii] The American Association for the Treatment of Opioid Dependence (AATOD)March 18, 2015 10:51 AM, Accessed on August 23, 2015 at: http://finance.yahoo.com/news/only-1-9-substance-abuse-145129124.html

[viii] EpisCenter, Penn State University, Cost-benefit Assessment of Pennsylvania’s Approach to Youth Crime Prevention Shows Dramatic Return on Investment access on August 23, 2015 at: http://www.episcenter.psu.edu/sites/default/files/Fact%20Sheet%20-%20Cost%20Benefit%20of%20PA%20Prevention.pdf

[ix] Justice Policy.org accessed on August 23, 2015 at: http://www.justicepolicy.org/uploads/justicepolicy/documents/04-01_rep_mdtreatmentorincarceration_ac-dp.pdf

[ix] Maryland Voter Survey. (December, 2003). Bethesda, Maryland: Potomac Incorporated.

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Healthy Dating Guidelines — Part Two

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Melissa Killeen

As a recovery coach, I often see that many of my clients have difficulties negotiating new relationships. In the 12-step rooms of the sex and love addictions, members write their healthy dating guidelines when they are entering a new relationship. They review their dating guidelines and make a commitment to their sponsor to follow these guidelines, before the first date. The following dating guidelines can be used by young adults, people that are separated or divorced, and for those who have been single for decades. Last week’s post focused on selecting the characteristics one wants in a potential date, the first date guidelines and first date deal-breakers. Feel free to circle the things that you embrace as your healthy dating guidelines and leave the rest. This week’s post covers the dating guidelines for the first month and on through to the sixth month. These guidelines are specific to circumstances that may occur during the courtship period. These suggestions will help anyone avoid the common pitfalls faced by those who are trying to win the heart of another. 

Beginning of the relationship, guidelines for the first month

  • I will be meeting in a public place for the first 3 dates
  • I will not make up in my head that he/she is the “one.” Time is the determining factor of a solid relationship.
  • I will limit the amount of fantasy or daydreaming I have about this person.
  • I limit my electronic transmission and media use, because it is a gateway behavior to fantasizing and intimacy avoidance
    • I will limit my contact by phone, to one 30-minute conversation every other day
    • I will limit my contact by email to two emails a day
    • I will limit my text to four texts a day
    • I do not track this person on their dating sites or social network sites
    • All phone calls, emails and texts will be non-sexual and not intriguing
    • I will not stare at my phone expecting an instant reply or call back
  • I will limit the dates to this person to one date every other week for the first two months
  • I limit the amount of money I spend on a man/woman for dinner, vacations. clothes, gifts
  • I will not use money spent as an expectation of some form of reciprocation
  • I will not expect a man to purchase dinner, parking or movies every time we date
  • I will not kiss this person on the first date
  • I will not be involved with any form of sexual touching on the first date
  • I will place appropriate guidelines on when I will kiss or erotically touch this person, e.g. third date to kiss or two months of dating the person before I erotically touch
  • I will place appropriate boundaries with this person regarding my personal time. No phone calls/dates/interactions with this person that will interfere with me getting to work, doing my work, going to church, fixing my family’s meals, getting a good night’s sleep or any other prearranged time with my children, their school related activities, my friends, therapy or 12-step meetings.

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How can I recover from sex and pornography addiction?

Give yourself time to heal

To recover from sex and pornography addiction, Dr Linda Hatch in her blog, states that one must be diligent and motivated. Recovery from sex addiction takes about 3 to 5 years.  Going along with the accepted recovery model used in alcoholism or drug addiction, many believe that sex addiction is a chronic disease requiring diligent treatment for life to prevent relapse. Hatch doesn’t think this is always the case in healing from a pornography addiction. She believes Internet porn addiction may be an exception to this 5 year, life long recovery model.

There are other clinical studies that suggest that pornography addiction is an Internet addiction.  Gary Wilson writes the majority of pornography addicts, even with severe symptoms like porn-induced erectile dysfunction, can recover in a matter of two to four months. The first phase of either sex and pornography addiction recovery is restricting computer or internet access and not using that smart phone to access your acting out partners. Yes, even sex addicts use the computer, internet and cell phones to act out, so the restriction is implemented for them as well.

Robert Weiss author of A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, and co-author with Dr. Jennifer Schneider of Untangling the Web: Sex, Porn, and Fantasy Obsession in the Internet Age suggest that addicted users are unable to implement lasting behavior change without the admission that they have a sex or pornography addiction and that the addiction is causing unmanageability in their lives. He suggests admitting this to yourself, to another human being, coupled with a combination of addiction-focused individual and/or group therapy and ongoing attendance at a 12-step (or some other addiction support group) will be the next steps on the road to recovery.

Get as much information as you can

In addition to turning off the computer, Weiss’s advice for addicts, is to educate themselves about what sex or pornography addiction is and how to overcome it. Learn how to be accountable, like handing the computer password over to your wife. Find a friend or sponsor in an addiction support group like SLAA, SA, SCA or SAA, developing an active and empathetic support network is a necessity for long-term sobriety and a healthier, happier life. You can ask your HR department for information on the Employee Assistance Program which can help you with therapeutic treatment. Without this knowledge and outside assistance, addicts have little chance of keeping their goal of sobriety in this addiction.

Fill your bedside table with recovery books. Authors like Weiss, and Hatch are joined by numerous others like Paldrom Collins, a former Buddhist nun and sex addiction counselor, and her husband, George Collins, M.A., a former sex addict and practicing sex addiction counselor for over 20 years. They wrote: A Couple’s Guide to Sexual Addiction: A Step-by-Step Plan to Rebuild Trust and Restore Intimacy. They present a refreshing new approach for couples struggling with the issue of excessive pornography, compulsive masturbation, frequenting prostitutes or strip clubs, serial affairs, and other acting out behaviors. In his book, Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame, George Collins shares the techniques he has developed in his practice over the last 20 years that have helped hundreds successfully learn how to confront the negative energy that fuels sex and porn addiction.

Understanding that there are several approaches to recovery for sex and pornography addiction, many therapists and clinicians follow the model developed by Patrick Carnes, author and the former director of Pine Grove Behavioral Health (which treated a well-known golfer) and is currently a senior fellow at the Meadows in Arizona (which treated a well-known X-television star). In a study of recovering sex addicts reported in 2000, Dr. Patrick Carnes identified that during the first year in recovery there was no measurable improvement in areas such as coping with stress, self-image, financial situations, friendships, career status and spirituality, even though the addicts reported that they felt that their life was “definitely better.” The first year of recovery is very tough to cope with, so outside assistance is necessary. During the second and third years of recovery, including a period of sexual celibacy, there begins to be improvement in the areas having to do with functioning at work, communication at home and having a better emotional connection with others. These improvements then continue into the later years of recovery.

Carnes reported in the third year and thereafter, greater healing occurred in the addicts’ relationships with their partner and with their extended family/children. During the fourth and fifth years the addict discovered how to “do” non-sexual intimacy as well as engaging in healthy sexuality. Overall these recovery years are about how to achieve higher self-esteem and more life satisfaction.

Coping with withdrawal

Recovery from sex and pornography addiction is like kicking a drug, or booze. Sex and pornography addicts will go through a withdrawal process. Withdrawal symptoms can be acute, and last a few months. But most addicts develop healthier behaviors during this withdrawal period. This period of withdrawal is usually characterized by:

• Cravings

• Strange sexual dreams and fantasies

• Peculiar physical symptoms

• Restlessness and mood changes

Sex or porn addiction is more than having gotten hooked on a dopamine rush. For most sex and porn addicts, the addictive behavior is entwined in a whole adaptation to life based on self-taught ways of coping with inadequacy and insecurity. Without deeper change, the addict is still at risk for relapse into the old addiction or substitution of a new one.

Accept change, follow the guidelines of recovery

It has long been accepted that the root of a sex or pornography addiction is based on a set of negative core beliefs, such as “I am not good enough”, “no one could love me as I am”, “if I have to depend on someone else to meet my needs they will never get met” and “sex is my most important need”.

These beliefs lead not only to a secret sexual life in which the addict seeks to meet his or her needs, but also leads to a slew of negative consequences that we have discussed in a previous blog. But now it is time to shed the former destructive beliefs and seek recovery. Patrick Carnes outlines his work from a 1980’s study on how recovery can work for a sex or porn addict:

First Two Years

The Developing Stage

    • Admit you have a problem and want to change
    • Seek therapy with a Certified Sex Addiction Counselor (CSAT)
    • Attend a 12-step group
    • Stop acting out (either with porn or other sexually compulsive behaviors)
    • Develop knowledge about this addiction
    • Take appropriate tests for HIV/Aids and STD’s
    • If you slip, or stop going to therapists or meetings, go back

Overcoming the Crisis Stage or Decision Making Stage

    • Coming clean about your addiction to others
    • Realizing that in the face of a crisis (an arrest, a spouse’s discovery, or losing your job) you have to do something and cannot continue doing what you were doing

The Shock Stage

    • Experiencing deep loss, feelings of separation, disbelief or numbness
    • Experiencing withdrawal, also the inability to focus, disorientation, and ambivalence
    • Overcoming the feelings of hopelessness and despair
    • Anger over having a therapist or family member set their limits or handing over the addicts’ decision making power
    • Relief that the double life is finally over

The Grief Stage

    • Grieving over the loss of a job, a spouse, legal involvement and/or the separation from their family
    • Grieving over the loss of the addiction, which was used like a friend, confidant, comforter or emotional high
    • Recognition that they were abused or neglected at some time in their life
    • Grieving over the exposure of early traumas in the addict’s life, such as early sexual trauma, parental neglect or abuse
    • Grieving over the loss of the image of the person that abused them, and acceptance that that person was an abuser, not a friend, mentor, parent or family member

The Repair Stage

    • Moving from pain and loss to forgiveness, repair, restructuring and emergence into a new life
    • Changing long held belief systems
    • Instituting new healthy belief systems
    • Taking responsibility for your actions
    • Deepening new stronger bonds with others, developing empathy and intimacy
    • Making an effort to follow instructions, complete assignments, and responding to requests. Beginning to show up on time for appointments, and/or accepting they may be wrong and promptly admitting it, are hallmarks for acceptance of this stage of repair.

Growth Stage (after two years)

  • Achieve balance
  • Develop a greater sense of self, and non-sexual forms of self-satisfaction
  • Be available to friends, family, partners and business colleagues
  • Have compassion for themselves and others
  • Develop trust in all areas of your life

Carnes said that in addition to accomplishing the above goals, he cited a number of additional factors that stood out as being important parts of the recovery process and should be considered during the five years of recovery:

  • Inpatient or residential treatment experience
  • Group treatment experience, intensive outpatient and outpatient services
  • Long-term individual therapy with a certified sex addiction counselor
  • Participation in 12-step programs
  • An active and knowledgeable sponsor
  • An ongoing spiritual life
  • The support of friends
  • A period of celibacy
  • Regular exercise, medical checkups and balanced nutrition

 

In many ways, the field of sex and pornography addiction treatment lags behind the professional and general population’s awareness of other addictions like alcoholism, drug abuse or even gambling. Resources available to treat compulsive sexual behavior have increased dramatically in the last decade. Physicians and therapists who are new to this type of patient need to be educated. It is slow process for both the health professionals and the people affected with this addiction to learn about recovery from this addiction.

 

Here are some organizations that can help

  • SASH

http://www.sash.net/

  •  Annual International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP)

http://www.iitap.com/

  •  The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsion (NCSAC)

www.NCSAC.org

  •  American Foundation for Addiction Research (AFAR)

www.AddictionResearch.com

  •  Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)

(615) 331-6230;

www.SA.org

  •  Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)

www.SLAAFWS.org

  •  Recovering Couples Anonymous (RCA)

(314) 397-0867

www.Recovering-Couples.org

  •  Co SLAA (for spouses/partners of sex addicts)

http://coslaa.org/

  •  Sex Addicts Anonymous

https://saa-recovery.org/

  • Sexual Compulsives Anonymous

http://www.sca-recovery.org/

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 Resources used in this blog:

Patrick Carnes, PhD, (2000) Sexual Addiction and Compulsion: Recognition, Treatment & Recovery, CNS Spectrums 2000; 5(10): 63-72, accessed at: http://www.recoveryonpurpose.com/upload/article_sexualaddictionandcompulsion_pcarnes.pdf

Patrick J. Carnes Ph.D., David L. Delmonico Ph.D., Elizabeth Griffin M.A., (2007) In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior, Hazelden, Center City, Minnesota

Robert Weiss, LCSW, (2013), A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, Elements Behavioral Health, Los Angeles, CA

Robert Weiss and co-author Dr. Jennifer Schneider, Untangling the Web: Sex, Porn, and Fantasy Obsession in the Internet Age (2006), Alyson Books, New York, NY

Gary Wilson, blogger at: http://yourbrainonporn.com/porn-addiction-not-sex-addiction-and-why-it-matters

Paldrom Collins, and George N. Collins (2011) A Couple’s Guide to Sexual Addiction: A Step-by-Step Plan to Rebuild Trust and Restore Intimacy. Adams Media, Avon, Massachusetts

George Collins MA , Andrew Adleman MA (2010) Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame, New Harbinger Publications, Oakland California,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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