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Lions, Tigers and Bears and the Yellow Brick Road to Recovery

This is a guest post by Steve Devlin, a recovery coach from Philadelphia PA, and a long time friend. I chose to post this over the Christmas weekend, because it brings me such joy, and brings back wonderful memories of watching the Wizard of Oz on TV during the 60’s. Thank-you Steve, and Happy Holidays to all of my readers.

Over the past week, I have been thinking about the Serenity Prayer and its connection to the Wizard of Oz.  Some of you might be looking at your computer and wonder if I have lost my mind.  I beg for your patience and to hear me out.  First a caveat or two.  I represent only myself in this message.  The second caveat is this message was inspired by a share I heard at a 12-step meeting.  The person who said it gave me permission to use it.  So here we go!

We all know the Serenity Prayer.  “May God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”  And almost everyone knows the story of the Wizard of Oz or at least the movie version of the story. Dorothy is not happy with life on the farm, runs away, is swept up in a tornado, lands in a strange place, and gathers three companions on her journey to the Emerald City to meet the Wizard.  On the way, she must deal with witches – good and bad – flying monkeys, and castle guards before she finds she always had the power to grant her wish of returning home.

So what does this story have to do with the Serenity Prayer, let alone recovery?  We cannot find fulfillment, happiness, or peace in our lives. We run away and just when we realize that we have run too far, we are swept up in the tornado (or drug of our choice).  Its path of destruction destroys the landscape of our lives and carries us far away. Thankfully, when the storm passes we land in a new brightly-colored world filled with sober people singing about the blessings of recovery.  Yet our own work is just beginning.  There is a road we must follow with steps leading to the Emerald City of sobriety.  We also learn that we cannot walk the path alone.  There are still temptations, flying monkeys, people, places, and things calling us back to the darkness.  However, as we follow the path we first find the companion of serenity – the heart to love ourselves and others.  A new heart also gives us the gift of forgiveness and acceptance.

The second companion is the courage to move forwards even when encountering lions, tigers, and bears.  It is courage which lets us turn over our lives, let go of character defects, and make amends.  It is also courage that lets us pick up the phone or go to a meeting.

Finally, there is wisdom, which gives us the ability to see choices in our lives and to know what we can and cannot change.  After long periods of feeling tied up like a scarecrow on a post, we are set free to walk a brick road of new life.  Of course, finding these three companions to fight back addiction is only part of the story and the Emerald City is not the ultimate destination.  Our companions bring us to the shining light of recovery, but we must take the gifts back home and use them in our daily lives outside of the rooms.

I wish recovery was as easy as clicking our heals together.  Finding our way home takes work but with heart, courage, and wisdom we can overcome all the flying monkeys and stay out of the way of tornadoes.  We also learn that the greatest companion of recovery is gratitude which was always just in our own backyard.

Question: Who are your companions on the brick road?

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The Sobering Center’s Recovery Coach—George Shea

interior photo of sobering centerThe Houston Recovery Center

The Houston Recovery Center and the Sobering Center, is located at 150 N Chenevert St, in Houston, Texas. The Sobering Center employs recovery coaches, case managers and Emergency Medical Technicians (EMTs). At first I thought a Sobering Center was a unique set-up for drunks to “just to sleep it off.” This is how it works: Houston police bring in intoxicated people to the Sobering Center in lieu of jail. Sounds like an easy solution for an alcoholic, yes? But this facility provides much more than an alternative to incarceration for individuals who are intoxicated and on the streets. Inebriate adults remain in the Sobering Center for 5-6 hours and have a recovery coach assigned to them. This recovery coach will suggest detox, rehabilitation treatment and recovery coaching support. The clients begin to develop options for greater self-care and self-determination. Case workers can guide the client toward more stable living arrangements. EMTs check their vitals regularly. At the end of six hours the client is free to walk out and will continue to receive weekly recovery coaching services or the client can elect to participate in a detox and treatment program. What is extremely comforting is, if admitted to the Sobering Center, no one will receive a police record, or an arrest record.

How did Sobering Centers Start?

There is a decade-long, upward trend in emergency department (ED) overcrowding and increased jail time for nonviolent offender populations. Homeless, alcohol-dependent people have accounted for a significant portion of this escalating trend. Law enforcement is the first point of contact with intoxicated individuals and the last contact is jail, or the emergency department, so police departments and hospital emergency physicians have been begging for an intervention. As a result, the Sobering Centers were born.

There are Sobering Centers all over the country, so the concept is not new. Some may be in your city. There is The Sobering Center in San Antonio, the Sobering Center/Inebriate Reception Center in San Diego, The Sobering Center in Redding, California, the San Francisco Sobering Center, the CARE Connection Sobering Center in Santé Fe, New Mexico, and the Dutch Shisler Sobering Support Center in Seattle, Washington. The Dutch Shisler Sobering Support Center has been open for over twenty years, and the San Francisco Sobering Center, opened in late 2003 and has provided over 10 years of care for the homeless population in the Mission District.

Houston Recovery Center’s Sobering Center has had 14,000 admissions since they opened their doors in 2013. That is an average of 100-150 people a week. Prior to the Houston Center’s opening, police were making about 17,000 arrests a year for public intoxication, racking up between $4 and $6 million in police costs alone. The Sobering Center has reduced that number significantly; from June 2013 to June 2014, Houston police booked just shy of 2,500 people on public intoxication, according to an August, 2014, Houston Chronicle article.

What is the role of a recovery coach at a sobering center?

The Center’s recovery coaches and case managers offer the option to sober up for 5-6 hours, 24/7/365. A recovery support specialist is available at any time to have that conversation with anyone sobering up at the Center. There are always three recovery support specialists on duty along with a medically trained technician and a case manager. They walk through the dorms to ensure the clients are okay. The EMT checks on the client’s vitals every thirty minutes. Once a person wakes up, the Recovery Support Specialist’s magic can begin.

Once such magician is George Shea

George is a recovery coach that admits clients into the Sobering Center. After a medical intake with an EMT and an assessment with a clinician, George shows the client to the dormitory and assigns the client a bunk. He stays engaged in conversation with the client, if they can remain awake. This conversation is purposeful, to gather information and to find out if the Sobering Center can help them. George is there to find out if there is a problem, or if they want to speak to a counselor so they can find rehabilitation help. If they want to go into treatment, the Sobering Center has connections with several detox centers, and rehabs. If they need a roof over their head, the Center is affiliated with several facilities including a Salvation Army facility and the Star of Hope Mission that is right next door to the center. These are all specifically low- or no-cost options for the individual.

Yet, some clients leave the Sobering Center without seeking treatment. Any client who has visited the Center can sign up for follow-up recovery coaching calls and receive recovery coaching face to face. George calls clients once a week and asks them to complete various tasks such as formulating their recovery plan. George works with building the recovery capital of these clients, which includes providing clothing, finding housing or arranging for medical treatment.

George interviews every client before they leave the Center. Paperwork is completed to capture the demographic of the client, and George, again, informs them that detox and treatment are available if they need or want to take advantage of the resources. George is not forcing anyone to make these changes, but he can help. George often relates his story in this process.

George’s Story

George grew up in Houston, in an alcoholic family. He began using at 12, and started losing interest in school, and gaining more interest in drugs and alcohol. Eventually he got kicked out of the house at 18, and dropped out of high school. His mother died when he was 20. The family imploded. He was employed as a DJ at a local radio station, and the DJ lifestyle made it easy for him to use. Eventually, his stepmother initiated a family intervention targeting his dad. During family week at the treatment center, his family initiated another intervention, this time with George as the target and he stayed at the same facility for 6 weeks. He left treatment but relapsed immediately with intravenous drug use. He moved to San Diego, California, and limped along, either in feast or famine, in-between addiction and work.

He couldn’t keep a job or a relationship. His DJ-ing exacerbated the addictive behaviors. He was fortunate to have a small inheritance, but that also fed his addiction. In his late 40s, his health was deteriorating, he was losing his teeth, he had symptoms of diabetes, and finally had enough. He was living in a dilapidated house in Seattle that was going to be torn down. He felt so much shame. He lived an addicted life and continuously put up a front that he was okay. Finally he reached out to his family and asked for help. They said to they would help him, but he had to go to treatment and live in a halfway house in Houston. He had his last drink sleeping in his car outside of a Mexican restaurant, the night before he entered treatment.

In March 2009, he threw himself into recovery. He became active in a home group, and started doing service. Because of his broadcasting skills, he began producing a recovery radio show. His show is a mix of music and message. The message is that a life in recovery is a positive testament to who you are. The program link is: www.live365.com/stations/docjabbo . When George heard about recovery coaching, he knew he wanted to be a certified Recovery Support Specialist. He completed the CCAR Recovery Coach Academy training at the Center for Wellness and Recovery (http://www.wellnessandrecovery.org/) and started working at the Sobering Center.

One Life Saved . . .

George says his role is limited because he has these people for only a short period of time. He gives it his best shot. George gets the full spectrum of clients, some in full denial of their addiction, some aware of their addiction but with interest in changing and others in the middle, wanting to take action but not able to sustain any meaningful sobriety. The amount of brutality experienced by people living on the streets was truly an eye opener for George. Sometimes he hears from a client he helped. Like this guy from Michigan, his name is Richard, and he came into the Center about two years ago. He opened up to George about how he had ruined his life, and lost his wife and children. Richard is a craftsman who works with his hands but was homeless. In the past two years, George had gotten him into several detox and recovery programs, and yet Richard would relapse and come back to the Sobering Center. Richard would commit that he is on board to get sober, then he’d relapse, and come to talk to George. Richard is now enrolled in Cenikor, in their two-year treatment program. Cenikor is a well-respected treatment program with locations in Texas and Louisiana, where the clients live at the facility, work for the program, and as residents receive job training and career planning. George sees something in Richard that he doesn’t see in many of his clients. Richard may fall, but he keeps getting back up. That gives George a feeling of hope for him. And perhaps George’s coaching is making a difference in Richard’s life.

 

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Recovery Coaches to the Rescue

avengers-age-of-ultronIt is 5:30 am and a band of FBI and local sheriff authorities pull up to a New Jersey suburban house in a development not far from Philadelphia. Adorning Kevlar vests, and windbreakers with the yellow letters FBI on their backs, they storm past a toy doll stroller in the sidewalk. They bang on the door with their fist, demanding “Open up this is the FBI”. After a few more wraps, a bleary eyed woman about 40 years old opens the door a crack and peers out. With a burst of energy, five FBI agents and two local police enter her foyer, issue her a search warrant and spew out demands, only one she actually hears, “Your husband is under arrest for child pornography, where are the computers?”

Emily, (all real names in this story will be withheld for privacy purposes) is dazed. She is in her bathrobe, and slippers, her hair is mussed, her eyeglasses crooked. She is barely awake. She glances at the stairs. She sees her two children at the top of the stairs, as a troop of agents make their way up to them. The agents ascend, as her girls descend squeezing towards the wall making way for the army of six foot, 250 pound men barreling past them. They are asking “Mommy, what is happening?” A sheriff from the local police department asks where her husband is. She says he is at work; he works the midnight shift at a local hospital. The Sheriff gets on his walkie-talkie and bursts out some demands, heralding a similar event at her husband’s workplace.

It is 6:00 am, and Tom is just wrapping up from his shift as a nurse. His supervisor walks up to him and a force of blue windbreakers flank him on either side. “Tom,” his supervisor says, “these gentlemen want to see you in my office”. As they turn to go to the office to FBI agents take Tom at the elbows and nearly lift him off his feet. He arrives in the supervisor’s office, is placed in an arm chair and the door slams. Tom hears the words he has feared for the past two decades. “You are under arrest for the possession of, and the suspected distribution, copying, or advertising of images containing sexual depictions of minors.” For some strange reason, Tom is relieved. He thinks “It’s over, it is finally over.”

It is Monday night, a steady stream of middle aged men drift into a hospital conference room, and take a seat. One of them opens a gym bag and starts to place books, pamphlets and tri-fold fliers on the table. A clear plastic envelope stuffed with one dollar bills is placed next to a thin loose-leaf binder. He sits down, opens the binder, checks the time on his cell phone and says, “Welcome to the Monday night meeting of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, my name is Ken, and I am a sex and love addict.” The seemingly normal cohort of men reply, “Hi Ken”.

The Monday night meeting of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous begins. The reading is on Step Three; made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood God. During the share a newcomer tells his story about what brought him into the rooms tonight. He is not sure he can be helped. He knows he has been a porn addict for all of his adult life. He says he has just been found out and he has no idea what will happen next, to his life, to his marriage, to his kids. He was advised to go to a 12 step meeting, and luckily he saw this meeting listed.

The members of this unlikely band of brothers looks at Tom. His head is down. His focus is on the ravaged cuticles of his right thumb. As he raises his thumb to his mouth, a tear rolls down his cheek. They know how he feels. Each one of them have felt this same despair. Joe raises his hand to share. Joe is almost 45, yet one would think he is no older than 35. His Goorin Brothers Slayer cap is on backwards, his flannel plaid shirt is unbuttoned revealing an LA Dodgers vintage t-shirt. Appropriately ripped skinny jeans end in Vans pull ons. He gets current, talking about his therapist, his groups and what the third step means to him. Then he looks directly at Tom. “I know there is no cross talk in this meeting, so let me just say this, Tom, can we talk after the meeting?”

Joe knows what has happened to Tom. Tom need not even say the word ‘legal’ for the subliminal message to be delivered. Joe knows because it happened to him, less than two years ago. The Cop Knock. The end of life as he knew it. The opening up of a new world. A new life without any more hiding.

Relief.

Joe and Tom walk to the café and Joe buys Tom a coke and a sandwich. It is the first thing Tom has eaten in two days. The café is empty, so they find a corner table and sit down. After just a few minutes, Tom’s experience from the last week is told. Joe’s head was nodding the whole time, but he lets Tom talk.

Before an hour was up, Joe had given Tom the name of three men, Michael, Steve and Mike. Also, the number of an attorney and of a therapist that specialized in treating offenders. As they walked out of the hospital, Joe said the first call should be to Michael. Michael will coordinate everything. And Joe was right, Michael coordinated everything.

Michael answers the phone at 9:15, and Tom was on the line. Michael was already prepared by Joe’s call, just minutes before. By 10:00, Michael assembled the team and briefed us all. The attorney appointment will be made by Tom. The therapist introduction will be on the phone, and the first group therapy meeting is tomorrow and Joe will bring Tom. Mike and Steve will call Tom daily for support. I am assigned to work with the wife.

Every one of us responds to this call. It initiates a recruitment effort that rivals the Avenger’s response to Ultron’s threat to eradicate humanity. This team is committed to  respond to any sexual addiction crisis- the family affected by a patriarch’s incest, the individual devastated by sexual abuse, or the man that has heard the “Cop Knock”. We know they feel alone, whether they have been abandoned by their family, abused by loved ones or in this case, arrested for an illegal act. Tom needs his Avengers team to help him, because this is territory he is not familiar with. But this team is very familiar with it; the family dynamics, the law, the courtroom, treatment and therapy, prison and re-entry. We have walked this path, and emerged on the other side, as healthier and better people for the experience. So we are there, in order to keep our sobriety, we are doing service to give back what we have freely received.

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